Resilience is simply defined as the capacity to recover from difficult life events. It is the ability to withstand adversity and bounce back and grow despite life’s downturns. Resilience is also the ability to handle life’s changes and adversities successfully. Resilient people are not immune to hardship. However, they can come out from it—scarred, maybe, but definitely stronger.
It can be hard to build one’s resilience. Especially because of numerous life challenges. It is however not impossible to be resilient. It is something that can be learnt. Resilience is key because adversity is inevitable and because resilience protects you. In addition to this, resilience will serve you well both now and in adulthood. Regarding life’s disappointments, part of being a successful and productive adult is to bounce back from not so good experiences, to set new goals or to try to find other pathways to reach your intended objective.”
This article provides key ways that can help build your resilience in face of challenges, crises and adversity.
Put your problem in perspective.
Not all problems need to bother you. There are some incidents that you do not need to think too much about. You must learn to distinguish between major problems and minor events. This will help you see things in a clearer light. It will also save you the stress and trouble of overthinking and worrying a lot.
Ask yourself. Is this problem worth consuming me?
If not, breathe, relax and let it go.
Learn from others.
Valuable lessons can be learned from people who have already weathered storms of adversity. As you talk to others, you’ll find that they have gone through a lot of difficult trials, but they are OK now. Talk to them and find out what they did or didn’t do to cope with their situation.
Let them know what you are going through. They can help provide some support and let you in on some secrets that may help you cope with the situation. You may find this really helpful as a problem shared is a problem solved. This maxim may not work but it does provide some sort of comfort. This is because you know you are not alone . This also proves to you that just like them, you can come out stronger.
Learn coping skills.
There are many coping skills that can help in dealing with stressful and challenging situations. They include journaling, redefining thoughts, exercising, spending time outdoors, socializing, improving sleep hygiene, and basically anything that can help you cope.
You can come up with coping strategies of your own. It is important to also increase your optimism. This is because people who are optimistic tend to feel more in control of their outcomes. To build optimism, focus more on what you can do when faced with a challenge, and identify positive, problem-solving steps that you can take. This helps you feel more in control of situations.
It may take some time to come to terms with hardship, so don’t be surprised if you have bad days. The important thing is that you get up again. When you are bouncing back from adversity, your heart and emotions have to heal. That is a process, and it takes time. The road to recovery gets a little better and a little easier as time goes on.
Support systems can play a great role in resilience. Strengthen your existing social connections and find ways to build new ones. In addition to this, understand that some friends may not be trustworthy. If you have friends that make you feel worse than you already feel, then stay away from such friends. Mingle with those who support and encourage you. Those who spread positive energy and vibes.
Know your strengths can make you feel more capable and confident. Draw on your talents and strengths as an individual and watch yourself come out strong during adversities.
Building resilience takes time. You can’t always get it right the first time. We can’t always choose our circumstances in life, but we can choose how we respond to them. The truth is that it takes time to come to terms with adversity, so don’t be discouraged if you feel that you are taking longer than expected to recover.
In the words of Gever Tulley “Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.”